Sunday, January 20, 2008

Discretion

As a jewel of gold in a swine’s snout, so is fair woman that is without discretion. Proverbs 11:22

I never really thought of this verse in relation to how I behaved until a sweet lady I know related a conversation she had had with another woman. In politics it is the norm, not the exception, for a woman to have a filthy vocabulary. She had appealed to a friend of hers using this verse. Her friend told her, “you know, you’re right.” She was.

This analogy of the scripture made a deep impression on me. I started seeing other ways this verse applied to everyday living and how a lady should conduct herself to be truly beautiful. I think discretion is the basis on which every true lady is defined, consciously or not. It is important to show discretion in everything we do; in how we speak, walk, act, dress and eat.

The concept in this verse can apply to many areas of our lives. Self-control would be a good key word. What about a beautiful woman who loses her temper and spouts off with angry words? Compare that to someone who conducts themselves in a quiet manner, using appropriate language in a well modulated voice, dressing modestly, walking with poise and employing good eating habits.

Discretion

It can apply to what we say, how we say it. What about our facial expressions or our temper? Everyone enjoys a good laugh, and it is healthy; but what about foolish giggling? Not a good idea.

We are bombarded today with multiple choices in clothing, most of which are not modest. Would it be discretion to attire ourselves in these styles? I think there is something far more elegant about a woman who shows discretion in how she dresses than someone with sensual attire.

Ah, I mentioned eating. This is one I see myself as struggling with sometimes. A second piece of pie? Sure, why not. A third piece of chocolate cake, well, they were kind of small. (And it was sooo good.) There are sometimes when I say, this is a feast time, it’s okay. And you know what? That is true. But feast time isn’t all the time and discretion should be something that we integrate into our eating habits.

It’s almost tea time. Fresh warm scones and a plate of chocolates wait. Well, here is a good opportunity to practice some discretion.