Monday, January 14, 2013

Don't Try to Come Between Me and My Sister

The mindset of some people astounds me. I’ve heard it before, but the older man finished admiring my family’s picture and then told me, “Man, if I was a young guy dating one of you, I’d look around and say, hey, I have some more options here, which one do I choose?”

I informed him that my brother-in-law had zeroed in on the sister he wanted to marry and there was never any other option for him.
And that is how it should be.

If a guy was so flaky as to try and philander between sisters, we’d show him the door - collectively. Yes, I have very beautiful sisters, and we all do look a lot alike, but beneath that outer beauty are young women with similarities, but very different in our personalities, aspirations, goals and desires. Except that we’re all looking for a husband that is tall and wealthy. We all pretty much agree on that. Did I ever mention that we’re smart as well as beautiful? J Dreamers at any rate.
It wouldn’t bother me if a guy thought we were all pretty, that’s not a problem, but I react to the underlying spirit of focusing only on the outward appearance.  If a guy wants to pursue a relationship with one of us, he’d jolly well better see something special about that sister. Beauty is only skin deep and if you can’t appreciate what is beneath that, then forget trying to go into a life- long relationship.

I don’t mean this unkindly, but to provoke thought, “Is it any wonder that this guy was married more than once?”
There was another older guy there and he frequently talks about how beautiful our family is, which is flattering, but I’ve also with grief heard him talk about his wife pointing out attractive women to him. What’s wrong with that? Well, to be honest here, I doubt she’s saying, “Look at that lovely girls face.” Jesus said, “If a man even looks on a woman to lust after her he hath committed adultery already with her in his heart.” Jesus had pretty high standards, and I don’t expect everyone to be without sin, but to hear a Christian guy talking without shame about his eye for the woman is a sad statement for how far we’ve fallen.
Having said all this, it's not really to pick on the guys that I don't have great respect for, but becuase I know guys that aren’t that way. No, they’re not perfect, but they have a heart to hold themselves to Christ’s standard. That's pretty amazing.



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